I have a confession to make.
There are occasions when I become “unglued”. I turn into a crazy person who cries and yells simultaneously.
It’s not pretty.
And God bless my husband. He sits back and allows me to have my fit, not saying a word. He lets me have my temper tantrum, and when it’s over, he hugs me and tells me it will be okay.
Sometimes my initial response is to escape from whatever is happening. I used to say screw it and open a bottle of wine and drink the whole damn thing! I don’t drink anymore; however, my mind still races with everything from “I don’t care” to “I’m so angry” to “I don’t want to deal with this!”
And now…I say STOP out loud.
When I yell stop, it’s like stomping my foot on the ground and watching a bunch of ants scatter. This allows me an opportunity to calm my thinking. I can see that the thoughts are not serving me and are usually untrue.
I breathe.
I give myself some grace.
You can SABER through these moments too.
The Saber Method
We all get challenged in life, in spite of how happy we are most days. It’s in the tough moments that we have a decision to make. We can either stay in our self-pity and anger, or we can rise above it and move out of the protective and suffering state to a powerful and beautiful state of mind.
It’s easier to give in to temptation and do what we want. It’s much harder to take a step back and look at the circumstances in front of us objectively while making a new decision.
None of us are perfect. We all have our fits from time to time. But when we do, we have choices to make.
It’s up to you, and only you, to decide which direction you’ll take.
Temptations will come and go. Anger and heightened emotions will come and go. Tools like the SABER can help ease the transition back to a harmonious and expansive state.
For more information on the SABER, feel free to download the chapter I wrote for the book, The Successful Mind, Tools to Living a Purposeful, Productive, and Happy Life! I’m also including a free PDF with the chapter as my gift to you.