Do you remember when you were a teenager and were directed to come home by curfew or you’d be grounded? While you recognized this was good for you, it felt forceful and controlling. You knew your parents were only doing the right thing, but nobody wants to be told what to do, not as a teenager nor as an adult. Perhaps you’re a rebel like me. You do things “your way”. I look at rules […]
Are you a people pleaser?? Let’s talk about your boundaries. Have you said this would be the last time you say ‘yes’ to something you don’t really want to do… So, why are you doing it? Are you afraid to say no? Do you feel guilty for having time to yourself? Are you saying, “well, no one else will do it, so I might as well?” I get it, I feel that way too. We […]
Have you ever wondered why you do something over and over again knowing that it’s not the best decision for you, but you try again hoping for a different outcome? Yup, me too. It’s the definition of insanity, doing something over and over again expecting a different result. And this, my friend, is what keeps us stuck in pattern loops, or we can also say habit loops. Insanity… Stop the Insanity! We all have familiar […]
While April 2021 may look a little brighter than April 2020, it’s still a good time to Question the Drink. Alcohol Awareness Month Welcome to April’s Alcohol Awareness Month, the official month to bring attention to society’s love affair with alcohol. Why is this a big deal and why should you care? Because either you or someone you know may be drinking more than intended, and it’s a perfect time to question the drink. Think […]
Tell me if this sounds like you… You want to cut back or quit drinking. You want to lose a few pounds. You want to feel great about yourself. You want to excel professionally. And you want to enjoy your life now, not just when you retire some day. Great! So how will you do it? You will need this one thing in order to be successful. Your BIG Why. If your why isn’t big […]
Great, you made it to the end of Dry January! Or was it more like Damp January? Either way, the big question is NOW WHAT? One thing is for sure, February is here and you now get to make some decisions! Let’s look at some questions to help guide you: Self Reflection For most people, taking a pause is a time of self-reflection. It can be a reset, recharge or a renewal to yourself that […]
Redirect – Part Five of SABER Welcome to the last step of the SABER flow, Redirect. This is the ACTION step where we shift our attention to gratitude and making a NEW empowering decision. Having gratitude in all situations isn’t easy, especially if you’ve been struggling with something or moving through a difficult experience. I totally get it. But I’ll have you consider the meaning of gratitude. The Latin root of the word gratitude is […]
I love the word Embrace. The definition means an act of accepting or supporting something willingly or enthusiastically. It’s also an essential part of the SABER flow. Embrace is something you may be tempted to skip over as you move through the SABER process. Why? Because it can feel selfish, or self-serving. It can also be difficult to accept the circumstances in front of you. So why is it important to support yourself willingly or […]
Breathing is a precious gift. We don’t have to think about it, of course, but what happens when we do it with deliberate intention? SABER is an easy flow to put into play whenever you find yourself fighting an urge, temptation, inner mind chatter, or when you’re experiencing an emotion that you don’t prefer. By using breath deliberately, you are self-regulating and calming your mind and body. Let’s recap the SABER up to this point. […]
Today we are continuing the SABER flow by looking at the A in SABER. ACKNOWLEDGE You just learned about the importance of saying STOP out loud when you find yourself in a power struggle within your mind. By saying STOP, you could bring awareness of this inner mind struggle forward to your conscious mind where you rationalize thinking. Now that you have successfully paused the inner chatter, it’s time to acknowledge the thinking. What are […]
I’m a perpetual life-learner, a 7x career path conqueror, Executive Lifestyle Coach, Author, and Speaker. I’m also a former hot mess that was stuck in several gray areas of my life (drinking being the top one!) and wondering how I got there. This blog is a columniation of my methodology, teachings, beliefs, and personal struggles that I’ve endured over the years. I hope it blesses you.
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